Anson Counselor's Corner

Ashley Chyma, Guidance Counselor

Anger Mangement - Making good choices when you're angry

1. Walk away and take a break - taking a break to lower your anger temperature even one or two stages helps people think more clearly
2. Think it through (calm down) - tell yourself "I can handle the problem", "I can stay calm" or "What do I want to happen?"
3. Talk it out

   • Keep your voice calm and respectful
   • Listening is a very important part of this step. While the other person is talking, make sure you are listening.
   • Each person states simply why they are mad. For example:
     • Parent: I feel mad when I want you to follow directions and you don't.
     • Child: I feel mad when I'm in the middle of my game and you come in and tell me to do something right now.
   • State simply what you want instead
     • Parent: When I give you a direction, you need to do it right away.
     • Child: I would like you to give me a three-minute warning whenever you can.
4. Make a plan for next time

   • Each person finishes this statement: Next time I will ____________.
   • Each person apologizes for the last time: I am sorry for ___________.

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